To be or not to be

This is my first attempt in blogging. I created this profile long back but never felt like actually blogging. I did really think about it a few times. Whenever I felt a dilemma like searching school for my daughter, deciding CBSE or ICSE ..etc OR when I watched the movie Julie Vs Julia and was inspired by her blogs. Even when I read about the alleged letter from Lincoln to his son's teacher I felt I should blog about it. But, as usual my laziness won ;-). So what made me finally do it? I just saw the movie "No one killed Jessica" on TV and it made me think. Being the mother of a 3 year old girl, my dilemma is this. Should I be teaching my daughter to be really bold and fight against evil or should I just teach her to be quiet and invisible so that nothing will harm her. I know there is no guarantee that even then nothing will harm her. But, being bold is kind of a sure shot way of getting attacked. Silly you feel? Just think about it. Today I saw a news that one girl was shot dead by a guy whom she had slapped for misbehavior. Now my question is should I tell my girl to slap the guy who is behaving badly to her or should I just tell her to run away so that he won't shoot her later. In an ideal situation I should be teaching her to fight and my conscience is telling me to do that..but, my love for my baby is is making me think..if something similar happened to someone I love, will I be feeling regret that I taught her to fight? If I haven't taught her that she would still be alive? Now I know that I can't exactly dictate my child to behave in some manner in a given situation. It will totally depend on her basic instincts and common sense. But, I do feel the value education we give at home during their childhood do have a good amount of influence. You may laugh, but, I feel if you are being bold, you should be strong enough to fight...kind of like "Kiran Bedi" who I have heard that once fought with a gang of eve teasers in a bus single handedly. If you are not that strong enough, fleeing is better than fighting. Seriously...think about the practical scenario. Not all of us are meant be heroes or heroines. Hmm....on a personal note, tonight I have decided to get my girl admitted to a martial arts class as soon as her age permits...it may not save her from the Manu Sharmas of the world, but, may help her to handle the coward eve teasers.